Thursday, December 4, 2008

Reflection

Wordless Wednesday just really deserves a few words. We'd been threatening to put up the Christmas decorations for several weeks, not caring that it was way too early by some folks' standards. I LOVE this time of year, and the kids were begging, but we were simply just too busy till the week of Thanksgiving. That was an emotional week, as we had a little drama concerning family gatherings and a new baby girl that just so happens to have skin slightly darker than ours. (It was extended family, you can rest assured all of our parents and siblings have been nothing but smitten by the new baby) It was really not at all worthy of a response from my husband and I, though we were "barred" from a few gatherings over the course of a year. It doesn't at all affect us directly other than those gatherings that have been tradition, but we aren't bothered by that. We are, however, completely disgusted with a still living idea among "Christians" that white and black people (though, I say again, she is not black, or at least, not just black) should not live or worship together. I new that it would not be a choice that other family members would make for themselves, but I really fully believed they couldn't possibly look at a baby in desperate need of a loving family and deny that based on color, or even believe that we shouldn't, as foster parents, care for her. Apparently, when they showed up at the door, I was supposed to take a look and say, "oh, wait, she's the wrong color, take her back." ( I actually did know that she was bi-racial before she came, but you get the idea).

Anyway, again I'm chasing rabbits, but it does help you understand my frame of mind that week. It made me sick (literally, I spent much of the week nauseous) to think of this little girl's future rejection and hurt because of some people's ignorance. I'd look in her little face and my heart would break. Oh, how Satan is so skilled at attacking those things that we just slightly question about ourselves, and then suddenly confidence in who we are... and whose we are, and the very things that make us beautiful become something we hate about ourselves. My husband and I fully anticipated rejection towards ourselves, but I suppose I did not process that rejection all the way down to the little one, and what she might one day feel. I also did not consider the affect it would have on our parents. I mean, I knew they would love and accept, so I didn't blink. I'm now realizing it affects their relationships with their siblings and their immediate families. I'm not as confident as I once was.

But I can tell you what I am... and that's fully in love. Oh, how wonderful it is to hold her, to feel her warm breath against my neck as I rock and sing. She's smiling at us now, recognizing our voices, and even turning to see her foster sisters playing. Our 3 a.m. feedings are special quiet times when I get to hear what she has to say... those sweet little coos and beautiful eyes that lock on mine.

And she's not the only huge blessing in our life. As I hung those stockings across the mantel, I got really tickled. I was laughing so hard as I was trying to get them all to fit up there. My husband was laughing at me, and saying, "What in the world are you laughing at?" "Look at these!", I said. "I can't even fit them all up here! We really have too many kids, we're gonna have to hang some on the wall!" And as I stood gazing across 8 stockings, suddenly my laughing became crying. Poor Hubby. He was looking at me like I was from outer space again. I know, so completely womanish and hormonal. But really, this year has been the wildest ride EVER. We've had a total of 8 kids, 4 of them brand new to our home this year. There have been ups like never before, and downs like never before. Some days have been so hard I wanted to quit. I mean, really quit. Somebody give me a gun. Or a rope. Some days have been so full of joy and hope and laughter and blessings that I thought my heart would burst. I'll save some specifics for the end of the year review, sure to come around New Year's Eve, but this year has just been like no other in my life. And the hugeness of it all... oh, so much bigger than myself.... just hit as I stood looking at all those stockings. First I couldn't stop laughing, then I couldn't stop crying, and I'm just so completely overwhelmed with how blessed we are, the gifts we've been given, that we've survived, and not just survived, but are living in this messed up world with the joy, love, grace, and favor of our Savior.

...A Savior whose birth I'm so excited about celebrating this season! We've got some fun things coming soon.... I'm taking the big girls to see the Nutcracker Saturday. We're having a big "Happy Birthday" party for Jesus with a couple of other families we're great friends with. All my kids will be in a Christmas pageant (actually, 2) this year. And we'll be filling a stocking for Jesus as well! So... what are you doing for Jesus's birthday this year?

8 comments:

A.J. Huffman said...

That was an awesome post. Satan will use anything and everything to try to get to us. That baby is precious no matter what color the skin is.

And I think it's wonderful what ya'll are doing. Someone needs to love and care for them. Ya'll are in my prayers.

Amanda and Justin Dreyer said...

Red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in his sight..... If we could all be like the little children. I'm so glad that God decided to place those girls with you and TJ. (This is late, but thanks for the sweet comment on my post awhile back).

deepfriedpicklesandicecream.wordpress.com said...

Speechless.Thinking about you guys.

chickadee@afamiliarpath said...

so sweet. i'm just about crying over that sweet baby girl myself now.

Anonymous said...

How sweet will the sound be though when in years to come, your little, sweet one will be what convinces them otherwise? Amazing Grace :) Hubby's grandfather was such one as they, but today after 4 years of parading those 'colored' kids (of all different shades even) around his living room, he now gets on them if they aren't in line for the huggin and kissin good-bye. He loves them all and he sees that they, too, are his family, even the temporary ones.
Prayin' for ya.

Maury said...

I am disquested right along with you. I don't understand how anyone can be that way. I have not met your precious little girl, but I know without a doubt, she is as precious as my little boy...ourlove is colorblind...I wish everyone's was.

40winkzzz said...

It is hard for me to imagine *anyone* acting that way, let alone Christians. I could see some well-meaning "concern", esp among those of an older generation who were brought up in a very different world than ours, but criticism and rejection? Unfathomable. As I write this I am remembering that you live in the south and that could make a difference (sorry; hope that doesn't offend you), but sadly, I know it happens here as well.

glitzen said...

I loved your heartfelt post about Mercy, and I seethed with you about ignorance and the way it can impact such a sweet little life. I love the picture in my mind of you and your 3 am precious time with her. Its so sweet, and I envy you every coo and sigh. What blessings!